Sisters, it is okay not to have babies

I just left a restaurant and watched these two young women struggle with their children. The two has seven between the two of them and they were all younger than 5 years old. Not a dad in sight and boy was it painful to watch. There was food all over the floor and you constantly heard, "Stop that, put that back, get over hear, etc." Now, why in the world these women decided to have so many children before they were ready is beyond me. But we now must take a stand and tell these young girls, "Stop having so many babies!" You must learn that having a child to replace something missing in your life is beyond selfish. A healthy child needs two parents (at least two) in order to raise it. No one person has ever raised a child. As a single parent, you will need to lean on people constantly. And yes, even couples have to lean on their families, but not as much as a single parent. Having children prior to being ready financially, will guarantee that you will live in poverty. No one is going to come to your rescue and no one should. You will find yourself very needy and that may set you up to lower your standards when searching for a mate. You will set yourself up to fail and you won't be able to live your life to the fullest; especially if the child came when you were too young to become a parent. Take time to live life, go to college and find out what else there is in life for you to become. You will never know what your potential to be in life is if you have to raise a child prior to being able to be a steady and sane parent. Take time to get to know yourself, if you are missing something in life, then seek help in church, a mosque, therapy, a support group or whatever. It is not fair for you to seek out being a single parent and the child will eventually suffer. Now, yes, you can point out examples of warped children from two parent families and sane children from single parent households; but why take the chance? You deserve the opportunity to become the best you that you can be and you can't do that while raising a child before you have grown up yourself.